Resolve or Not to Resolve, That is the Question!



It’s that time of year again!  The annual brawl with my New Year’s resolutions. I make them with a measure of love and good intentions, and like a bad boyfriend, drop them at just a hint of my next desire. Why is that? And like many of you, I have spent the last several years resolving to not resolve. I mean really, what’s the point if my white-knuckling approach is not going to result in sustainable change? But then I toss and turn and bristle at the thought of abandoning resolve altogether. Isn’t resolve one of our core values as a country? Isn’t bettering ourselves woven into the very fabric of our culture? Of course it is, so how am I going to approach 2015?

I took a look back on my 2014. For the first time in my life I started taking bold, daring steps into an unknown direction. One step at a time with the intention of discovering the purpose for my life that God was revealing. I truly believe that we are all created for a higher purpose. I believe that our lives are not without meaning and impact. My grandfather died three years ago, and I was amazed to see the hundreds of people who poured out gratitude for the contribution he made into their lives. He didn’t tour the country speaking to millions, he didn’t write a book that would reach the world, he didn’t march on Capitol Hill to be heard by the nation.  He invested all of his love into his little community.  He was placed at a small church in a little farming community in Oklahoma and gave it everything he had.  He made a difference.  We are ALL positioned uniquely in our communities to make a difference.

For me 2014 was a year of obedience to God’s calling, and as I began to experience spiritual growth and the presence of God through obedience, it became a mantra of mine, and a primary focus. Good thing, right?  Not when I allow my obedience to become an obsessive obligation filled with pressure and stress. I tend to be obsessive with virtually anything to which I commit, so I knew I needed to approach 2015 differently, especially when other areas of my life and health were ailing. You see, I decided that I would stop exercising for the next year so that I could focus on my purpose. No joke, friends.  I need help. And like all good girls, I found my help in the span of about 15 minutes panning Facebook this morning. I saw three posts that spoke directly to my dilemma.  My good friend Paul Gotthardt taught me, when you see repeated patterns in your life, start listening because it could be God trying to get your attention.

Here’s what I found this morning:


IMG_65777060872939_resized1) This little dandy of a meme.  It struck me that my attitude toward God’s purpose in my life needed to be repositioned in my mind without lessening its importance. (To find more memes like these, click here)

God’s purpose should never take the place of His presence.

2) An interview with Jennie Allen, posted in July, that somehow showed up on my newsfeed in December. Jennie has been walking a path not only of higher purpose for her life, but one in which she is encouraging women all over the world to step up and live their purpose. Jennie said, “It’s a gift that we get to serve God and obey Him and love Him with these days that we have here. I think I’ve turned that into pressure at certain points. I told myself that I needed to do something big or great, but I’m learning that this isn’t about doing something for God. It’s about doing something with God.” (For the full article, click here)

God’s purpose should never take the place of His presence.

3) An article by Michael Hyatt entitled, “What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do.” In brief he gave three points of advice: 1. Forget about the ultimate outcome, 2. Instead, focus on the next right action, 3. And do something now.  (For the full article, click here) I know that the power I wield, enabling my resolve to create anything sustainable, comes from my God and his spirit within me when I am in his presence. Even if I can accomplish a multitude of things in my own strength, it won’t last long, and I won’t really be satisfied. I resolve to be with Him in 2015 and I’ll do it now.

God’s purpose should never take the place of His presence.

Aaaaaand I’m going to start exercising again!

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  1. Sandra Lillard says

    I usually make a resolution, but don’t keep it very long, certainly not all year. This year I am determined to keep my resolution to not post anything negative on Facebook or to complain about anything. This past year has been so traumatic that even I am sick of hearing myself complain. If I can’t find something positive, I will just keep my mouth shut. As this year comes to a close, our best friends son killed himself on Christmas Eve and today our truck, our only transportation, is sick and will need major repairs. Is everybody’s life this hard? I used to be such a happy person, and now I just wait for the next disaster. I swear that life has made me this way. I am getting all the negative out of my system before January 1, and after that, only positive news from me.

    • says

      Sandra, you have been dealt a heavy hand lately. I think we all understand your sentiment. Life is definitely hard, but still mixed with sweet gems like children and grandchildren. I have a confident hope for your future. I really do. In your own way, you bring joy to my life, and that’s purpose!

  2. says

    Thanks for a timely confirmation! You can be certain God is using you in your little corner of the world! I’m a friend of your friend, Gina, and so happy to subscribe to your blog! Happiest New Year!

    • says

      Thank you so much! You have made my day! I really look forward to getting to know you!! Gina has been an instant friend, from the moment we met. Definitely a God thing!

  3. says

    I appreciate, cause I found just what I was looking for. You have ended my four day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a nice day. Bye

  4. Paty Gambordella says

    So….I will be dragging you out with me to jog when the weather warms up!!!!!!!!

  5. Donna Waybright says

    My sweet friend Gina Julian introduced you to me. Love your gift of writing and your love for Christ. I hope someday the Lord will make a way to meet you. My word for 2015 is S T R E T C H. To stretch myself for our Savior’s work beyond my abilities. To rely on HIM to show me the direction that He desires to S T R E T C H me. I have a great heart for women who are in strongholds, addictions, bondage and abused. God has blessed me and my family beyond measure with HIS great LOVE and GRACE. A story someday I hope to be able to share with you. Happy New Year and thank you for the challenge and for sharing your beautiful heart. In HIS GREAT LOVE!!

    • says

      Yes, Gina has told me about you! I do hope we can meet! Until then, I really look forward to getting to know you! I’ll look for you on FB!