The wedding. Eagerly anticipated, sacred, and significant. It holds the potential to change the trajectory of your life. It is loaded with emotions, hopes, dreams, and expectations… and for some, cynicism. I just spent a weekend reliving my wedding through memories and reflecting on my 12 years since. My husband and I attended an amazing wedding in the ever-gorgeous Naples, Florida. Right before the ceremony began, the gentlemen next to me leaned over and said, “This is much fancier than mine was.” To which I replied, “Mine was very lovely, but definitely not this fancy.” I loved my wedding and I love my memories from it. It got me to thinking whether I would change anything had I the opportunity to do it again. And I realized I do have some regrets.
1) I regret not investigating some of my song choices a bit more thoroughly. I requested a song that had four verses that I had never heard before. My miss resulted in an additional eight awkward minutes where Jason and I weirdly gazed into each other’s eyes whispering, “When is this song going to end?” It was torturous for me (and I’m sure everyone else) who just wanted to get on with it!
2) I regret spending most of my time at the reception on the dance floor. For some reason I felt like I was completely responsible for the party momentum and that meant dancing. Talk about awkward. Dancing and Jennifer do not go together. I should have spent more quality time visiting with my friends and family.
3) I regret saving my cake to eat at my one-year anniversary. A tradition that needs to go away! I only had one bite on my wedding day. You know, that one where the bride and groom feed each other a piece? It was so tasty and I really would have eaten more, but never got to. Trust me…year-old, frozen cake tastes exactly like what you would expect.
4) I regret staying so late after the reception and attending the after party. We were whisked away to the quaint Henderson Village in Georgia in the wee hours of the night, and we got there so late that no one was awake to receive us. We couldn’t find the key at 3:00 am and I was beside myself I was so tired. Our room was absolutely lovely and with our honeymoon flight so early the next morning, we could have easily stayed at a Holiday Inn and never noticed the difference. I regret not being able to enjoy the beauty and charm of that place.
5) I regret not transporting our wedding gifts back home in a better way. Mind you, I’m really not sure how we would have done it differently considering we married over 800 miles from where we lived. There were six total gifts that did not have associated cards, and therefore six people did not get their customary thank you. That bothered me for years, and apparently still does since it made the list.
And as hard as I try, I cannot think of any more regrets. I don’t regret my choice of mate (although there may have been a time where we might have said something to that effect in elevated voices, ahem). And I definitely don’t regret choosing Americus, Georgia to get married. I had a beautiful, southern-style wedding, hosted by such hospitable people. I still love those people even though I haven’t been back in ages. The journey since my wedding hasn’t been easy, but I am fortunate that our ceremony eventually solidified into a marriage. We have grown together, served each other (I still have to remind myself to do this one), and deepened our love for one another. All in all, I would do it all over again.
If you had to do it all over, what would you do differently? Do you have any regrets? What would you keep the same?